so after a great weekend i return home to find that my big bear doesn't start. my wife's air bag light is on in the car. my wife also has a very serious offer on the table job wise to consider. she can make what she makes now in a year in two 13 week sessions. no prob right!? wrong the 13 week sessions are in palm springs. the hospital out there will pay for EVERYTHING (flight, food, lodging, rental car when needed). so i told her the decision is hers but i believe that me and the knuckleheads would be fine for 13 weeks. the kids are pretty self-sufficient. plus she will be off weekends so if she wanted to fly home she could. i think the being gone that long scares her. would it put extra burden on me? sure but i can handle gymnastics, baseball and work it would prob cut into some of my ridin' time though. mom's and dad's out there what do you think?
Quote from: calscrazy on October 28, 2008, 11:00:35 AM
my wife also has a very serious offer on the table job wise to consider. she can make what she makes now in a year in two 13 week sessions. no prob right!? wrong the 13 week sessions are in palm springs. the hospital out there will pay for EVERYTHING (flight, food, lodging, rental car when needed).
26 weeks/year, right?!? GO FOR IT!!!!!!!
Quote from: calscrazy on October 28, 2008, 11:00:35 AM
so after a great weekend i return home to find that my big bear doesn't start. my wife's air bag light is on in the car. my wife also has a very serious offer on the table job wise to consider. she can make what she makes now in a year in two 13 week sessions. no prob right!? wrong the 13 week sessions are in palm springs. the hospital out there will pay for EVERYTHING (flight, food, lodging, rental car when needed). so i told her the decision is hers but i believe that me and the knuckleheads would be fine for 13 weeks. the kids are pretty self-sufficient. plus she will be off weekends so if she wanted to fly home she could. i think the being gone that long scares her. would it put extra burden on me? sure but i can handle gymnastics, baseball and work it would prob cut into some of my ridin' time though. mom's and dad's out there what do you think?
Well, if there's another 26 tacked on behind the first, that's like working for two years right? So, take a year off afterwards ! Heck, as tight as the economy is these days I wouldn't hesitate. "Money's contriband...spend while you can!" - Jimmy Buffett
Stay.
cdc
Tough choices, wish you well.
Remember: Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
PS: Out of sight, out of mind.
[roll]
simply put she would have to go out to palm springs for 13 straight weeks. if she did it twice which would be 26 weeks she would make the same as working here for 52. apparently there is an extreme nurse shortage in california and hospitals are paying big bucks to bring in nurses from out of state. at least the hospitals that can afford it and i'm pretty sure the palm springs area isn't poor by any means. she is going to meet with the lady and get final numbers tomm.
Always, ALWAYS go for the money. I'm old. I know.
;D Good luck to you both ! I have a dear friend in Palm Springs and she says the cost of living is very high. Be sure you consider that because an awesome salary will not go as far there as it does here. You probably already knew that if your folks are out there but I would make them come up with at least a living situation & possibly a per diem for expenses on top of the pay. If you don't ask you don't get !! 8)
Quote from: GeorgeInDallas on October 28, 2008, 03:38:19 PM
Always, ALWAYS go for the money. I'm old. I know.
"They say money doesn't buy happiness. That phrase should end with 'just kidding,' because it does. It buys a WaveRunner. You ever seen a sad person on a WaveRunner? Try to frown on a WaveRunner. . . . Money buys happiness. Ever seen a homeless person skip? They don't."
-Daniel Tosh
Do it! Hell, I can't even find a job. [bang] God bless anyone that has one that is in that kind of high demand. Think of all the people in the military that go away for a year deployment and leave spouses and family behind. They damn sure don't make those top wages and besides she won't have someone shooting at her or trying to blow her up! Well, then again, I have never been to Palm Springs... it could happen. :P
Go for it. [thumbsup]
Hmm...
I still say stay.
cdc
Quote from: cdc on October 28, 2008, 05:05:18 PM
Hmm...
I still say stay.
cdc
Did you read it right? Everyone stays except her, same salary, plus all expenses. Sure she's gone 26 weeks, but then she has another 26 weeks of free time, plus weekends, at home!!!!
Sounds to me like you need a Sweedish nanny to help with the kids and other odds and ends around the house while she's gone. [cheeky]
Quote from: calscrazy on October 28, 2008, 11:00:35 AM
so after a great weekend i return home to find that my big bear doesn't start.
What's a big bear? Is that slang from a Viagra commercial? And how is that related to your wife's air bag light?
big bear is my four wheeler. i left my son the keys because they wanted to ride it over the weekend.
Money is not more important than personal family time. (I myself have done the opposite) You don't have to worry about a "bad economy" in the nursing industry (fyi it's GROWING!) I say let her make the decision. If she wants to do it.....let her. If she doesn't, don't make her. If she can go there for 13 weeks and make 6 months income then come home and continue at her job, that would be a sweet deal.
Quote from: Sir L'Blur on October 28, 2008, 06:05:38 PM
Did you read it right? Everyone stays except her, same salary, plus all expenses. Sure she's gone 26 weeks, but then she has another 26 weeks of free time, plus weekends, at home!!!!
She might be home, but she would still have to go back to work, if not, she didn't make any more money annually and still lost 26 weeks with husband and kids......
Quote from: GeorgeInDallas on October 28, 2008, 03:38:19 PM
Always, ALWAYS go for the money. I'm old. I know.
+1, +2, +3 !!
Dude, no doubt a tough decision. I was laid off in '02 from a job I'd worked at for 5 years. The next month I went to work for twice my regular salary in Houston. I had to commute weekly from Fort Worth to Houston where I had an apartment. It was not easy on a mom with two young kids at home. She and I made the sacrifice but have profited from that decision moreso now because of it. If money is an issue or you would like to have more disposible income to help your family it's a tough decision to make. Once her salary is at where she is going to make it might have a positive effect in the future for a better paying job here in DFW. My sister-in-law is a nurse and she knows that there is a shortage here too and makes damn good money (70-80k+bonuses). Commuting is tough but it doesn make family time that much more valuable when she returns each time. Good luck with the decision. [thumbsup]
Have her negotiate a few 3 day weekends (with travel covered) to come back and visit. My buddy got a web design gig in St John, a 6 month project and they flew his ass back to DC every couple of weeks! Gotta love internet gambling sites! Might work!
Quote from: pipeliner1978 on October 29, 2008, 06:23:13 AM
Money is not more important than personal family time. (I myself have done the opposite) You don't have to worry about a "bad economy" in the nursing industry (fyi it's GROWING!) I say let her make the decision. If she wants to do it.....let her. If she doesn't, don't make her.
I totally agree with this. Seems like it should be a family thang [thumbsup]
Quote from: pipeliner1978 on October 29, 2008, 06:23:13 AM
If she can go there for 13 weeks and make 6 months income then come home and continue at her job, that would be a sweet deal.
She might be home, but she would still have to go back to work, if not, she didn't make any more money annually and still lost 26 weeks with husband and kids......
This portion does not compute for me.
Why would she continue at her job here? She would keep her same salary, yet only work 1/2 as much. The other 1/2 would be intense, uninterrupted family/home time. Just because she's "home" now doesn't always mean there's a lot of quality time.
Quote from: rgramjet on October 29, 2008, 06:39:51 AM
Have her negotiate a few 3 day weekends (with travel covered) to come back and visit. My buddy got a web design gig in St John, a 6 month project and they flew his ass back to DC every couple of weeks! Gotta love internet gambling sites! Might work!
excellent idea! she is on her way now to meet with them and i called her. neither of us had thought of that so thank you very much.
scott is right she would not continue at her job now she would have to quit.and why keep it if your making the same money for half the work. but in order to keep her tx license she would pick up one shift a week with nursefinders otherwise she would fall behind on any changes in this states rules and regs.
Quote from: Sir L'Blur on October 28, 2008, 06:05:38 PM
Did you read it right? Everyone stays except her, same salary, plus all expenses. Sure she's gone 26 weeks, but then she has another 26 weeks of free time, plus weekends, at home!!!!
Yes sir Mr. Blur, I read it right. When I said stay, I meant Chris's wife.
I'm all for women getting ahead in their careers but for many reasons if I were Chris, I'd tell my wife she didn't have to go. Now if this is a prelude to the whole family moving then that's another thing.
cdc
Quote from: cdc on October 29, 2008, 08:00:03 AM
for many reasons if I were Chris, I'd tell my wife she didn't have to go.
I never suggested that. I just think it's a good option, & primarily her choice :)
Quote from: Sir L'Blur on October 29, 2008, 08:40:49 AM
I never suggested that. I just think it's a good option, & primarily her choice :)
I never suggested that you suggested what you said you didn't suggest. ;D
Anyway, this is a very personal thing and not my business. Just me...
cdc
it's not like we would be pickin up the entire family and moving. that WILL NOT be happening. maybe if we were to move to virginia or the caronlinas but not california. i just wanted some other opinions from people whose jobs require alot of travel.
Quote from: calscrazy on October 29, 2008, 09:01:44 AM
it's not like we would be pickin up the entire family and moving. that WILL NOT be happening. maybe if we were to move to virginia or the caronlinas but not california. i just wanted some other opinions from people whose jobs require alot of travel.
I've spent many many years as a "business" traveller. I am alone and turned 49 on Monday. I'll let you do the math, so to speak.
For my job, I've had to be stationed out of town for months at a time. I recommend doing 3 months at a time, instead of all 6 months at one time. (sounds like that was an option)
Three months is a hassle and not fun, but 6 months (or more) at a time is really tough on both sides of the marriage, especially with the kids. Kinda sucks for them not to see a parent for that long other than a weekend every now and then.
well she met with them today and they gave her an offer. she countered and we have to wait to see if they agree to it. but if they do she is gonna take it. she would be gone 13 weeks but she would get one three day weekend each month that they pay for 1/2 her round trip flight home each time she comes. the lady told her straight up they can't pay for the full amount but maybe you could ask for 1/2 ;) ;). the money is good and the 13 weeks on 13 weeks off schedule leaves alot of family time plus if they agree to the one weekend a month that's not so bad IMO. i told her the biggest difference would be me making dinner and toting karen lyndsey to practice during those weeks. we could get those camera things so she could see the kids when she talks to them. i can record videos and overnight them to her. shane (my son) just kinda gave it a "cool!" karen (my daughter) is ok with it but seems a little hesitant but i think she would be fine in time. she just wanted to know if she could go out there sometime and visit. i told her we could fly her out there on one of the long weekends because i am sure hangin out with older bro and dad is not every girls dream. either way now we wait and see......
Awesome! Fingers are crossed for you Mang!
so the answer is in and.......
money= [thumbsup] but not the big issue
time off= [thumbsup] cool but no w/o faults
staff= friendly major plus but not w/o faults
having said all of that my wife said "no thank you!" she said that by them being as short-handed as they are it puts her medical license and lives in danger. neither of which she wants to be on the losing end of. to many patients and not enough nurses is a dangerous combo. the funny part is she told them her answer this morning and they have called twice already trying to change her mind.
Quote from: calscrazy on November 05, 2008, 02:39:12 PM
so the answer is in and.......
money= [thumbsup] but not the big issue
time off= [thumbsup] cool but no w/o faults
staff= friendly major plus but not w/o faults
having said all of that my wife said "no thank you!" she said that by them being as short-handed as they are it puts her medical license and lives in danger. neither of which she wants to be on the losing end of. to many patients and not enough nurses is a dangerous combo. the funny part is she told them her answer this morning and they have called twice already trying to change her mind.
Now that is behind you, you all can focus on making Bacon Vodka for the party. [thumbsup]
[bacon] [bacon] [bacon]
Quote from: NorDog on October 29, 2008, 11:18:25 AM
I've spent many many years as a "business" traveller. I am alone and turned 49 on Monday. I'll let you do the math, so to speak.
...that is not what your hotel bill said, "Movies $12.95." The 24 hour feature is better... don't ask me or my L hand how I know. [cheeky]
Quote from: caffeinejunkee on November 05, 2008, 02:44:36 PM
Now that is behind you, you all can focus on making Bacon Vodka for the party. [thumbsup]
[bacon] [bacon] [bacon]
AND finding just the right SBK !! [thumbsup] [moto] Sounds like your lady is smart & has integrity [thumbsup] !!