I feel like Rat...or Piller...

[The Mad King Pepe']

just read through this entire thread and it's left me speechless! I really feel for you man and hope everything works out with time!

[AJ]

just read through this entire thread and it's left me speechless! I really feel for you man and hope everything works out with time!

Same here. I'm floored.
Good luck & don't forget to take care of yourself. 

[Big Troubled Bear]

Having to share a house with my wife`s 30 year old ADDICTED son I have the greatest respect for you, I have given up on him and am in the process of removing myself and my own son from this negative input to my life.

STAY STRONG 

[ZLTFUL]

The one major positive that came out of the last hearing (Monday) was that once the paperwork from Iowa is received, we won't need another hearing and I can immediately take custody of my 15yo.
Once I do that and get her moved back up to my place, we are going to petition the Iowa courts to revoke my ex-wife's parental rights. My daughter wants this as well but still wants to see her when/if she gets her shit together.

I am trying to get Iowa child support stopped because it is still going to the mother instead of the foster care provider as I was originally led to believe. But after spending 1 hour on hold this morning and sitting now on hold for the last 1 hr and 15 mins, I am considering just driving out there. They are only about 5 miles away from my work.

Anyway, everyone seems to be impressed by how well I am taking this. But I have my moments. Fortunately, owning a motorcycle affords me some good blow off time.

[scaramanga]

You're an incredible dad, they are very lucky to have someone like you.
Keep fighting the good fight.

Fight the Good Fight by Triumph

[krolik]

Marine Corps for the 18yo

Why would the Marine Corps, or any other branch of the armed forces, want to sort out the "life issues" of the 18yo?

[ZLTFUL]

Why would the Marine Corps, or any other branch of the armed forces, want to sort out the "life issues" of the 18yo?

Unfortunately, I feel the same way.

[duccarlos]

The Marine Corps helped get my brother back on track.

[ZLTFUL]

The problem is, Carlos, your brother probably wanted that. My 18yo wants nothing more than to hang out with her friends, smoke dope and to bang her BF.
She doesn't want to work. She doesn't want to contribute.
The last conversation my wife had with her went something like this:
Wife: You should work on taking care of those medical bills you are building up.
Daughter: Nah...I have dad's insurance. Besides, mom is helping me get on title 19.
Wife: Well that is all well and good but 1. Insurance doesn't pay the full amount and 2. Title 19 doesn't cover bills you have already accrued.
Daughter: That's OK. I will just file for bankruptcy like mom did.

Hard to motivation that much lack of motivation. She saw her mom living for years on other peoples' money so she thinks that she can do the same and all it takes is getting pregnant.

[duccarlos]

My other brother, not the Marine, had a long time GF like that. They had a kid together so she got away with trying to kill him a few times, she's a psycho. Anyway, while he was no saint, they both lived off what he "earned" selling dope and whatever she could get out of the government. She attempted some jobs and she was actually a beauty school dropout, she got kicked out for getting into fights.

At one point we managed to get my brother out and moved him with us in alone. We were able to reprogram him for about 6 months. We replaced a lot of the bad with a job from a guy that came to think of him as a son and the violent shit with hunting. Then, she shows up with his kid and the 2 others she had before she met him. I move out of state and he has to move into various different places. Wherever they end up they destroy the place. She goes to jail a few times for trying to stab him and finally he leaves her at a group home and takes custody of their kid.

I will not go into detail on how this person ruined a whole bunch of relationships within my family, but she was a wrecking ball and after years I'm still trying to mend some relationships. I'm not saying you should give up on your daughter, but at this point she's already pretty messed up. Don't take your family down with your attempts to educate her. Reprogramming a person takes a huge amount of dedication, not only from you, but also from everyone around her. Not everyone will be willing to put as much into her turning her life around. If you're truly dedicated, bring her into your house, get her a job, you drive her to work every day, make sure that her boss is with you to keep an eye on her during the day. The best results are if she's too busy to even consider doing anything else. Her job does have to be rewarding and leading to something. My wife and I were lucky to have found that one guy that was willing to sacrifice to help out.

[ZLTFUL]

18yo told me to eff off and die tonight. Said she never wants to see or talk to me again.
I told her fine. It's all good. Good luck with your life. And goodbye.

Then she promptly had her friend drive her to my 15yo's foster home and convinced her to "come hang out with us". They took off in her friends car. They found then. Sheriff was going to arrest my 18yo but apparently she had a major anxiety attack and ended up in the ER.

My 15yo is back with her foster care provider.
But now I get to call the juvenile court officer tomorrow and tell them that I do not want my 18yo to have visitation at all without state supervision.

The 18yo can't seem to understand that now, not only is she trying to make the beast with two backs up her own life but that of her 15yo sister.

She also had her friends gang up on my wife and my 20yo daughter on Facebook and even went so far as accusing me of being a pedophile because I posted up a picture of my at age 8 in my underwear with my nephew.

Ended up reporting and blocking all of the friends but now my 15yo is pissed at me because *I* am causing her stress.

[IZ]

Did you rob from the poor in a past life dude?!  This is like watching the first 90 minutes of Groundhog Day.  Just when you thought "what else could go wrong"?!  Now the introduction of the "p" word. 

[Speedbag]

 

[ZLTFUL]

Did you rob from the poor in a past life dude?!  This is like watching the first 90 minutes of Groundhog Day.  Just when you thought "what else could go wrong"?!  Now the introduction of the "p" word. 

Had a conversation with a friend today...I said I feel like an episode of Jerry Springer.
"Nope...this stuff is too messed up for Springer."

[LowThudd]

Had a conversation with a friend today...I said I feel like an episode of Jerry Springer.
"Nope...this stuff is too messed up for Springer."

More like Breaking Bad. I feel for you man. Don't you wish the 18yo would just get a Godsmack?