Quote from: LowThudd on July 11, 2013, 10:49:36 AM
More like Breaking Bad. I feel for you man. Don't you wish the 18yo would just get a Godsmack?

Well I have a strong feeling that the local sheriff in the town she "moved" back to (I use quotes because she is apparently bouncing from friend's house to friend's house with the occasional stop in at the ER to attempt to get some prescription pain killers.) still has a hard on to get her arrested. And from what I can tell, she isn't far from it.

The funny part is she texted me today telling me that I needed to start treating her like I would any other adult.
So I told her, Fine...lose my number and stop trying to get me to feel pity for you...exactly what I would tell any other adult who continuously shit on me and mine.

If the Sherriff wanted to arrest her, the fake ER run wouldn't have stopped them.

Holy shit brother. Get your 15 year old the hell out of there. At least you can salvage one.

Agreed ^ but it sounds like her only chance is if older sister gets locked up for a long time in another state. 

Quote from: IZ on July 11, 2013, 08:34:56 PM
Agreed ^ but it sounds like her only chance is if older sister gets locked up for a long time in another state. 

He can get a restraining order against the older sister. And then watch the 15 year old like a hawk.

There's your next move then Z.

Would the 18 y/o even care or abide by that though? 

Quote from: IZ on July 12, 2013, 08:28:59 AM
There's your next move then Z.

Would the 18 y/o even care or abide by that though? 

Likely not, but without a restraining order law enforcement could do nothing when he complains she won't stay away. With it they can take her to jail.

The key is still getting her up here.

Apparently, the case worker is on vacation for another week and the documentation from Iowa is sitting on someone's desk down in Jefferson City. Until that moves, we still have to wait.
The foster care provider wasn't aware that my 18yo was not allowed unsupervised visitation...she is now.

Once the 15yo is up here, it will be easy to keep the 18yo with no license and no money away...especially since she burned bridges with all the people willing to transpost her this far.

Do you think mom told older sister to grab younger sister, and split town?

BC.

Doubt it. My 15yo is back with the foster family.
If the mom breaks any of the conditions of her release, they will revoke her release and will dump the plea agreement.

Paperwork cleared for me to take custody of my 15yo.
Met with an attorney at lunch today to get the ball rolling on having the mother's parental rights revoked.

And apparently, the mother was using both kids as a proxy to communicate with her current husband who she is supposed to have no contact with. The 15yo is being punished by having her cell service suspended for 2 weeks.
Time to start making her recognize the concept of consequences.

The good news, this will put the 15yo out of reach of the sister and the mother as neither has reliable transportation and issues of their own.

One, or more, of the them will be grateful for your effort - at some point. So will you  

I'm impressed!

That's terrific! At least you will be able to communicate and take care of her. Show her how a real parent behaves.

Finally, a positive!! 

here and now would be a great placement for 'Tini's pom-poms

A little hiccup (and hilarity ensued).

So she most likely won't be up here this weekend.
Apparently, the judge has to either convene another hearing or the state has to submit a motion to place her with me even though the paperwork is approved.
Judge said send it over, I will review it and get the motion signed.

Ex-wife was on the conference call and said that she isn't comfortable with the 15yo being with me (she had been sniffling and crying the whole conference call and now is on full on bawling and can't understand her mode.) All of this triggered by my 15yo no commital daughter doing a typical teenaged phone *shrug* and "I guess so."
The ex-wife took that to mean that she wasn't wanting to move up with me. When in reality she was all like whatever and stuff ya know.

Then the ex wife asks to have the placement put on hold until after her sentencing hearing next month.
The case worker steps in at this point and says, "Yeah...let's discuss that right here and now Jenny. First, the state's primary focus is to place the child with a parent. In this case, the non-offending parent who doesn't have a sentencing hearing and the potential of 6 years in prison looming. Even if you were to only get probation, the state would still not recommend placement until you had completed your drug treatment, full term of your supervised probation and any psychiatric evalutation the court ordered. What I am getting at is, for your daughter's sake and stability, the state feels it is best for the placement to be with the father."

The ex-wife is blubbering by this point.
So the guardian ad-litum(spl?) steps in and says that nobody wants to keep her from seeing her daughter but that at this point in time, she needs to focus on her stuff and let her daughter focus on living a stable life. She also said that she needed to stop putting herself first and cut the pity party so that we can focus on the child who is suffering the most. (I had to mute my phone because I was pretty openly laughing at this point).

So we continue on and ultimately it is decided to hold off until tomorrow to finalize the placement motion with the judge so that the ex-wife can have her scheduled visitation and they can address any concerns she has at that time.
My only contribution was concern that we get this squared away as quickly as possible so that we can get her settled before the school year starts and we still need to get her enrolled.

The other thing that was discussed was visitation with the mother. She wanted me to come down to her place (2.5 hour drive one way) every week and that she preferred Wednesdays or Thursdays. I pointed out that first of all, doing it mid week is a no go as both me and my wife work full time M-F jobs and it would be unfair to force *us* to work around *her* schedule being that she was currently unemployed. So visitation was moved to the weekend. The other concern was that she is renting an apartment from her dad and as such, going to her place wouldn’t be a good idea as her dad has been openly hostile towards me and has threatened me multiple times in the past. I said that I wasn’t sure I was fully comfortable with that and that it was also unfair to insist that I have to travel the full distance when as it was now, she was going to the visitations at a state office 2 hours away.
We didn’t really end up with a resolution but by this time, the call was winding down. So we ended the call.

The case worker called me up and said that she was sorry for not jumping in but that she agreed with me. She said that visitation should be held in a place of my choosing, not the ex-wife’s and should revolve around my schedule. Not hers.
So we still need to get that finalized but the case worker is going to tell her to pound sand if she doesn’t want to meet me somewhere near my place.
There is also the permanent custody thing but my lawyer got that ball rolling yesterday.

So now we wait a little bit more. Tomorrow’s visit is going to be my ex-wife trying to talk my 15yo out of leaving foster care. And, of course, generally trying to manipulate my 15yo.
Funny that she has recently had to take a parenting class…