So the girlfriend and i have been talking about moving into a house together
i've never lived with a girlfriend before - so this will be a pretty big step for me

we are talking about doing it next June.

we were thinking of moving up to Paso Robles (where i work, and about 30 minutes north of where we currently live), but the more i am up here the less i like the town. Also, moving up here will distance ourselves from all of our friends and my family. 
I really like living where i do, but i don't like my roommates thrashing my furniture and such and it would be nice to have a whole house of my/our own.

any advice?

run.......


run free my brother 

Quote from: TiAvenger on October 09, 2008, 12:30:01 PM
run.......


run free my brother 

Damn right, what are you letting yourself in for... do you not see the pain and torment us married types go through? 

Quote from: NuTTs on October 09, 2008, 12:43:48 PM
Damn right, what are you letting yourself in for... do you not see the pain and torment us married types go through? 

yeah, but you're NuTTs!

Quote from: TiAvenger on October 09, 2008, 12:30:01 PM
run.......


run free my brother 

Cueing Monty Python:

Run away! Run away!

On the more serious side:  I assume there are housing options other than Paso Robles?  June is far away.  Plenty of time to look, decide, and redecide.

do a trial run before you get into a lease


youll know in the first 3 months if it will be cool or not.

Quote from: TiAvenger on October 09, 2008, 12:30:01 PM
run.......


run free my brother 

+1

You will look back later in life and determine you made a mistake by living with your GF. Embrace your current situation and even your roomates. Keeping furniture nice is NOT a reason to move in with the GF! Run Free, Run Free.

You're going to be taught a number of the things you thought you knew are wrong.


You don't wash the dishes correctly (barring that, you load the dishwasher entirely wrong).

Apparently not turning on the light late at night to pee is unacceptable.

Your laundry skills lack.

If you want to play video games until 3 am, you will have to endure numerous requests to "come to bed".

Some girls have no clue about bathroom boundaries once they live with you. You'll be in the shower, whizzing, taking a crap, and she'll just wander in and do whatever she needs to do, possibly while wanting to talk.

If she has a pet you now need to take care of it.

You will need to redecorate.

You will NOT be able to find your food, or anything in the kitchen.

You have to call if you're going to be home late.

Some evenings you'll come home to a house full of her and her friends and they'll all give you *that* look and sort of giggle to themselves. At that point, you will feel terribly inclined to leave.

If you dump her, you move out but still owe half the rent.

Etc.

Quote from: elTristo on October 09, 2008, 12:50:21 PM
On the more serious side:  I assume there are housing options other than Paso Robles?  June is far away.  Plenty of time to look, decide, and redecide.

there are
she wants to get out of the immediate area - where as i have moved into, and rather like the immediate area

Quote from: TiAvenger on October 09, 2008, 12:51:00 PM
do a trial run before you get into a lease


youll know in the first 3 months if it will be cool or not.

yeah, i'm hoping we can find a month-month lease - but that is very unlikely here
she is moving out when her lease is up in June no matter what.
she could move in with my roomates and i in the current house - but there isn't a ton of room

Since you do have some time, I would let the idea stew for a bit. If in a few months if the desire is still there, then what the hell, go for it.

Don't make the mistake of moving in together prematurally because you aren't happy with your current roommates... I did that and it ruined a good relationship... we just weren't ready to live together and both had situations where we "needed" to get out... we defaulted on each other.  

Also, like has been stated, Don't buy for sure.  Doing a 1 year lease is fine, as long as one of you can afford to take over the lease if the other decides to leave.  

FYI, living together is a huge step... it will make or break a relationship.  


BTW, I would recommend living where you want to live, esp if you aren't so keen on the area you work in.

Here are some advantages:

Someone to do your laundry for you
Someone to cook you good food and bring it to you while you're watching the races on tv
Someone to clean
Beer fetcher
Someone to do naughty things with ALL THE TIME


You can live with a gf and have it be good. Its not a doomsday thing. But you have to be ready for it. If you're not, figure out why and communicate that to her.

I hate to say it cause I like her and all

Quotethere are
she wants to get out of the immediate area - where as i have moved into, and rather like the immediate area

this will cause some major friction.

Every time in the summer you step outside into the hell hole that is paso, you'll realize what you are missing out on.  And the resentment will grow

Unless you rent a winery.... then you might be ok

Quote from: JBubble on October 09, 2008, 12:59:40 PM
Here are some advantages:

Someone to do your laundry for you lie
Someone to cook you good food and bring it to you while you're watching the races on tv lie
Someone to clean lie
Beer fetcher well maybe
Someone to do naughty things with ALL THE TIME your pants are on fire


You can live with a gf and have it be good. IT BURNS Its not a doomsday thing. But you have to be ready for it. If you're not, figure out why and communicate that to her.