You know her best... is she wife material? If not then don't. If so then this is yours and her chance of a trial run together. Better to find out before marriage then after the fact. Live life man

Quote from: herm on October 09, 2008, 10:36:49 PM
agree in advance about important issues such as "toilet seat up or down"

that is in no way a relationship breaker in my book 

last night my g/f was telling me that one of her friends, who moved from long island to AZ to live with his g/f, was having issues.
they have been living together for about 4 months now and the novelty has worn off. it's the point where all the little things that you don't notice start to bug the hell out of you. they aren't talking about it. things are going very poorly right now. it's to the point where he stays up late just so he doesn't have to listen to her nagging and being huffy about "nothing" being wrong.

the moral of the story. if you actually want it to work COMMUNICATE. i think the only reason kathy and i havne't slugged it out is that neither of us believes in holding back what we feel so it is said right away before the problem starts and i kick her ass out of my bed and onto the couch or the spare room (i paid for the mattress and bedframe, she can sleep elsewhere )

one other thing that i didn't think about but led to a bit of tension, groceries. we would go shopping, i would spend $100+ on food and she would eat all the snacks in 3 days leaving me with nothing. when it was her turn to buy she would spend $30 and wouldn't buy any much food at all. she didn't know how to shop for groceries, she's getting better now though. now i buy stuff that she doesn't like to eat so i have snacks.

I've lived with 2 girls.... broke up with one, married the other.  There's obviously no fast rule about it.

But I stick with what I said earlier (and has been echoed by several others):  don't leave the area you love.  My wife and I certainly aren't going to get divorced over a crappy house in the crappy part of town, but there would probably be less tension living in a crappy house where we want to be.

Quote from: herm on October 09, 2008, 10:36:49 PM

whatever you do, rent a place that you can afford solo. have only one of you on the lease. that way, if it doesnt work, you are not in a bind with the rental arrangement.

You can also use your name on the lease as a stick to beat her with.


"Woman-fetch me a beer or I'll toss you out!"

Quote from: somebastid on October 10, 2008, 10:57:39 AM
You can also use your name on the lease as a stick to beat her with.


"Woman-fetch me a beer or I'll toss you out!"

I call kathy "rent check" when she annoys me.

my brother lived with 2 strippers once. they used to get him comps to the club all the time, and introduced him to the rest of the girls to boot.

i recall him telling me there were additional benefits as well........

"room mate with benefits"

Everybody is a friend with bene's when you deal with those girls...... I worked in a club for 5 years... I wouldn't do it again but it was fun as a younger man.

Quote from: herm on October 10, 2008, 11:42:52 AM
my brother lived with 2 strippers once. they used to get him comps to the club all the time, and introduced him to the rest of the girls to boot.

i recall him telling me there were additional benefits as well........

"room mate with benefits"

Your brother is my new role model. Where may I find his image in order to have T-shirts made? 

after realizing the absurdity of my post - i decided to let this thread go... i just read through the past few pages

pure gold