So the GF wants to move in....

['diction]

Make sure there is plenty of that pretty , soap. And  have a project , you both genuinely are interested in, because you'll both need to have something else to occupy the clown room's noisey clock. I'll bill ya.

[TiAvenger]

Then you're dating the wrong girl.

I'm so done with this thread. Fry, do what your girl tells you too. Everybody else seems to think that all women are completely incapable of being around without you being miserable. Its true.

Fixed   

[Popeye the Sailor]

I woke up one day and there was food where my beer goes,

LMAO! 

[jdubbs32584]

where's my sammich woman?

coming dear.


For the rest of you: 

[KnightofNi]

my for real advice is get a 2 br apt. yes it will cost more, but she will have a place to keep her 5 tons of crap, and if the relationship goes south there is another room for one of you to sleep in until the lease runs out.


i thought i was a slob and had a lot of stuff. then i moved in with my g/f. holy maloley, she's far worse than i am. the bathroom is covered in long hair, her "products" are all over the dam place, but at least there's always TP. the hair gets EVERYWHERE. i walk 3 steps and i have a clump of hair woven inot my sock. i take a shower and i'm pulling it out of my crack. (how the hell does that get there when i'm not naked int he bedroom beforehand?)

it's not all doom and gloom, but it is a HUGE step and a major adjustment. you don't have the privacy that you had before, what once was yours is now "ours", and you have to deal with the "do i look fat" type questions a lot more. just make sure you are actually ready for it. ohh and make sure you have the bill payment chedule worked out too.

Here are some advantages:

Someone to do your laundry for you - i do the laundry
Someone to cook you good food and bring it to you while you're watching the races on tv - she hogs the tv, i cook and bring it to her
Someone to clean - that would be me too
Beer fetcher - occasionally, but i'm usually the drink fetcher
Someone to do naughty things with ALL THE TIME - not all the time, and the level of naughtyness needs to be set forth beforehand, but yeah. i'll agree with this one.


You can live with a gf and have it be good. Its not a doomsday thing. But you have to be ready for it. If you're not, figure out why and communicate that to her.

wtf, did i actually move in with a dude? did i miss something?  

[Popeye the Sailor]

coming dear.


For the rest of you: 

Ohhhh.....we're just pokin' at Fry. Our advice isn't worth much anyway-he knows how well he gets along with her. If it were me, I would 1) do a trial run. 2) lay some ground rules (no anal tuesdays or similar things), 3) find a place you both like and 4) have an escape plan, for both of you.

[TiAvenger]

Ohhhh.....we're just pokin' at Fry. Our advice isn't worth much anyway-he knows how well he gets along with her. If it were me, I would 1) do a trial run. 2) lay some ground rules (all anal tuesdays or similar things), 3) find a place you both like and 4) have an escape plan, for both of you.

Fixed... yet again....

But yeah JB, we are just poking fun cause we know them.

They will be fine 

[CDawg]

Fry,
Do you see youself marrying her?  If no or not sure: run away.  If yes: rent a place together in a town you like.
Just know there is no going backwards from living together...it's either heartache or marriage.

[Fox]

heartache or marriage.

What's the difference? 

[erkishhorde]

So why isn't moving in together not in Paso an option? Paso sucks and everyone knows it. I'd rent together first.

I lived w/ my gf for almost 3 years while in SLO. It started out as her staying over to play around a bit and then turned into her hanging around to do homework because we didn't have any free time to hang out and then ended up her staying over all the time even though she had her own place.

Like the others said, the playing around all the time perk went away after about 2 months. It was kind of a mutual thing though and we still played around whenever we wanted which was nice. Alone time was seriously lacking since we both spent all our time in the apartment in my bedroom. She'd try to do homework while I was watching/ playing on the computer and it didn't work out hot all the time. In a house w/ people out of school I can see this not being as bad but could still be a problem. In the end it got to be too much of each other and it felt oppressive and killed the relationship (not alone but with other stuff factored in).

The new girl doesn't want to live together until we're married. It took her the longest time to get comfortable even sleeping together in the same bed. Gals can be quite different so your experience can be totally different than ours. Talk about it with her a lot and if you're both not totally up for the idea it probably shouldn't happen. Sometimes the little things you plan on working out along the way never get worked out and really get blown out of proportion.

[DesmoDiva]

I moved in with 2 previous bfs.  Neither worked out.  Partly, because I moved into their places.  I never felt like it was OUR place, just HIS place.

We B and I moved in together we picked out OUR new place together.  We looked at lots of places in order to find the one WE were happy with.  

Now that we're married he's screwed.    (j/k)

+2 for BP advice of who pay's for what etc.  It isn't romantice to discuss $$$, but needs to be clear in a joint living situation.  B and I handle this by having a joint account that we put X amount in to cover our monthly bills.  When is comes to $$$ in a relationship, it needs to be handled like a business.  





Sounds like the rest of you are a wee bit bitter after bad experiences....................................get over it.    She obviously wasn't the one.  

[ducpainter]

just do it...

if you screw up...

you can try again.

Look at it as a learning experience.



No matter where you go...there you are.

[Grampa]

just do it...

if you screw up...

you can try again.

Look at it as a learning experience.



No matter where you go...there you are.

or.... switch places and screw down

[Spicoli]

This thread just reminds me of something I saw in the "Motivational Posters" thread....

[ducpainter]

or.... switch places and screw down

That too...

'cept I was serious.

There are no guarantees in life.

People grow...sometimes apart...

and change...sometimes for the worse.

The only way they'll find out is to do it...

talk is cheap...

and rarely accomplishes anything.

Plans never...ever...ever work out.