Forced with this decision, what do you do?

[Pedro-bot]

Grow some cojones and buy that shit! 

[rockaduc]

oh...and we need more info about the stuff in question...otherwise this is just another relationship thread for no moto content section.

+1
what are we talking about here?

[Statler]

If it's a neon lighting kit for your monster we're all coming over to take both the bike and the wife.

[DRKWNG]

+ dog/cat/llama

[Privateer]

take some of the money you have and put it away for said upgrade with the agreement that you will add so much per week/month/whatever until you have saved enough for it.

That's what I did years ago.  I stopped buying lunch at work, maybe just do it once a week, and instead put $15 week into a "motorcycle" account that I use for upgrades, tires, maintenance, etc.


Regards
Andy

[cgos4r]

My advice is to keep separate bank accounts and maintain separate pools of money. 85% of arguments at home revolve around money. So, to mitigate that, my wife and I keep things separate. We haven't had one argument about money because I spend my money how I please and she does the same. I can't get pi$$ed that she blew 300 bucks on shoes because I don't care, it's her money. She can't get pi$$ed when I blow 1k or more on MC/Car stuff because she doesn't care. We maintain one joint account for shared bills. We each deposit equal percentages of our incomes into that account. Just a suggestion!   

[MonsterSteve]

I went with option 2 but keep in mind everyones scenerio at home is different, your wife and my wife might respond totally differtly to the same thing. I recently sold my Monster rather traded it for a Hyper. I knew what I wanted to do, planned everything out (for the most part) and told her what I wanted, she knows that if she just says no and its something I am really adamant about I am just going to do what I want to do. That being said I told her I dont care what she wants to do with any extra money as long as she helps me find a way to pick up the new bike when the time comes. As luck would have it I went to trade the bike in before winter and put a deposit down on a Hyper and they gave me a deal I couldnt refuse, only stipulation was that I had to take delivery of the bike now.

good luck.

[TAftonomos]

You already answered your own question really.

If you have to ASK her if you think you can afford it, then you cant.  Otherwise, you'ld have bought it already.  Once denied, going ahead and buying it is only going to get you in more trouble....you can't even plead ignorance now....you know you arn't supposed to get it.

[burt69er]

Just a funny little story for you for perspective.

A buddy of mine had been on the wife for quite some time about wanting to buy a bike.  She said when you got the money and it doesn't take away from the family go and buy one.

In he comes from the garage with an old cigar box, with $5000 cash in it.  Apparently he had be squirrling it away for the last 3 years.

"Pack up the kids sweetheart, were off to the dealership" and promptly bought a 2003 R6.

My point?  If its something you want bad enough you can save.

[DCXCV]

Given the number of relationships I've screwed up (by being stubborn and just doing whatever the hell I want) a smart person would do the exact opposite of what I recommend. 

With that in mind:

Politely ask her for your testicles back and go buy your bike bling.  Be prepared to duck when she finds out.

[geoffduc]

after 4years going out together and 42years married my wife gave up many years ago so i just buy whatever i think will look good on my bikes and she spends on herself when she see's something she likes.money matters are biggest cause's of break up's so my advice is if you can afford it buy it and let your wife do the same because lifes to short for regrets and this way you both have a good relationship.just my 2cents.

[Teutonics]

Just a funny little story for you for perspective.

...In he comes from the garage with an old cigar box, with $5000 cash in it.  Apparently he had be squirrling it away for the last 3 years....

Another story, from a personal perspective. 

I had come into some unforeseen cash which never happens and we never keep cash around the house.  Knowing I was going to buy a bike, I squirreled it away in a pair of boots in the back of the closet to covertly offset some of the price of my bike.  My three year old then quickly found it and proceeded to spread it all over the bedroom (why would a kid be digging in my boots?).  My wife was shocked (and not too happy) when she saw my daughter playing with several thousand dollars of unknown cash!

Stupid move on my part.

[KnightofNi]

as logn as you can still pay the bills, and she is allowed to spend money too then what's the problem?

if you have separate accts then it's not her business what you buy so long as you pay your share of the bills. same goes for her.

if you have joint accts or have to worry baout buying junior new school clothes, you might want to hold off on buying it just yet. as others have said, put your secret stash off tot he side and add to it whenever you can. after a while you'll have what you need.
also look at buying used parts. they are cheaper.

[GLantern]

This is exactly why i bought a bike before i got married 

In reality though if you are sharing accounts and money is tight, money is tight.  You have to seriously look at your funds and don't let affect your "quality of life" or the family's!  Start saving if you have to.  I would go over the whole budget with your wife and see if the extra funds are there.

In my relationship i'm the better one when it comes to budgeting, so i tend to win those arguments , good luck!

[Statler]

Threads like these make me understand why I was so busy when I did domestic law.

Lots of people married to roommates and not spouses.

I am still surprised by the notion that after an equal payment of the bills, anything else on either side is nobody's business.  That's not how relationship 'experts' look at it, but perhaps more importantly, that's not how Courts look at it either.

This does explain why so many guys post up in the forums complaining about how unfair and biased the 'system' is when they split up.

We never got an answer about what the parts were did we?