Forced with this decision, what do you do?

[That Nice Guy Beck!]

my wifes gonna cook clean take care of teh kids and keep her mouth shut, if im making the money she has no say on what i want period

[Popeye the Sailor]

my wifes gonna cook clean take care of teh kids and keep her mouth shut, if im making the money she has no say on what i want period

I didn't realize those mail order brides spoke english....

[psycledelic]

my wifes gonna cook clean take care of teh kids and keep her mouth shut, if im making the money she has no say on what i want period

Honey, if you are reading this, I do not agree with this opinion.  (sorry Beck, but she has been following this posting a little also.  I think she likes this site as much as I do).  Anyway, My wife is a clenical pharmacist, and when working full time, makes a lot more then I do.  She is taking a couple of years part time to stay at home with our girls.  I will gladly help cook and clean to get the extra $35,000 back that we lost when she went part time! 

[stopintime]

"Honey" - if you're reading this - you DO know that the mods in question are safety related? Grips=better control. New reservoir caps=safe from the danger of fluid leaking out. Levers=better braking. Lighter carbon fibre screen=bike stops faster. New signals=cagers see what's going on.
Mirror=better rear view. The improvement of "looks" is just a bonus.

The side vents give a better combustion temperature for the vertical cylinder=better for the environment (sorry, no safety gains there)

[Popeye the Sailor]

"Honey" - if you're reading this - you DO know that the mods in question are safety related? Grips=better control. New reservoir caps=safe from the danger of fluid leaking out. Levers=better braking. Lighter carbon fibre screen=bike stops faster. New signals=cagers see what's going on.
Mirror=better rear view. The improvement of "looks" is just a bonus.

The side vents give a better combustion temperature for the vertical cylinder=better for the environment (sorry, no safety gains there)

Silliness-better combustion temps give a healthier engine. We all know how dangerous it is to have a mechanical failure while leaned over in a turn.


You simply must work on your rationalizations if you expect to lie your way to everything you want explain why your safety is so important.

[COWBOY]

my wifes gonna cook clean take care of teh kids and keep her mouth shut, if im making the money she has no say on what i want period

even a mail order bride would bolt once her immigration status was cleared.


gentleman, meet the life long bachelor among us.   

[That Nice Guy Beck!]

my GF of 4 years just doesn't get into my personal business, and shes not some wimp she was in the Israeli ARMY lol
but seriously she knows her place and I know mine, once she starts getting into my affairs shes O-U-T.
sorry I love her I respect her but what I do with my hard earned money is my business, she may give advice but she knows her place. Same if we get married, if im bringing home the bacon, shes driving a new bimmer, nice house, food, clothes etc etc, when i get a package in the mail for a new exhaust she wont even ask whats in the box. I treat her like gold and she respects me back.

[jsanford]

Threads like these make me understand why I was so busy when I did domestic law.

Lots of people married to roommates and not spouses.

I am still surprised by the notion that after an equal payment of the bills, anything else on either side is nobody's business.  That's not how relationship 'experts' look at it, but perhaps more importantly, that's not how Courts look at it either.

I will SO NEVER get married.

[DoubleEagle]

I will SO NEVER get married.

+1   Dolph

[SaltLick]

my GF of 4 years just doesn't get into my personal business, and shes not some wimp she was in the Israeli ARMY lol
but seriously she knows her place and I know mine, once she starts getting into my affairs shes O-U-T.
sorry I love her I respect her but what I do with my hard earned money is my business, she may give advice but she knows her place. Same if we get married, if im bringing home the bacon, shes driving a new bimmer, nice house, food, clothes etc etc, when i get a package in the mail for a new exhaust she wont even ask whats in the box. I treat her like gold and she respects me back.

Ha ha ha ha just wait until you get married.  If you believe that wemon wont be in your business once your married i have a bridge to sell you. ha ha ha ha ha ha

Ive been married for 12 years, things change when you get married dont kid yourself. I knew that comment had to been made by someone that wasnt married. Man thats funny.

[Clickjack]

If there's something I really want that's not quite in the budget, we'll talk about it and I'll pick up some extra work to pay for it without effecting the rest of the finances....and vice versa.  G has done extra shifts to get something fun for herself.

Ok... I'm single.  Never married.  But I have a brother who is married with three kids, and makes fat stacks of cash.  He decided he wanted to rebuild his classic pickup that he built right out of highschool.  Going the whole nine yards, this thing now produces 495 hp.  Lot of $$$, even with him doing most of the work.    Now he's not hurting for cash, but all the same, he took up some extra work to pay for parts.    He started doing finishing work on local construction to come up with the extra cash.  I don't even think he had to do this, but it made his wife feel better.

Now my dumb single guy question:  Why do wives get so weird about spending money?  Most single guys I know both put money away and buy what they want (with in reason).  My married friends either hide the finances if they want to buy stuff, or do with out.

[Clickjack]

my wifes gonna cook clean take care of teh kids and keep her mouth shut, if im making the money she has no say on what i want period

my GF of 4 years just doesn't get into my personal business, and shes not some wimp she was in the Israeli ARMY lol
but seriously she knows her place and I know mine, once she starts getting into my affairs shes O-U-T.
sorry I love her I respect her but what I do with my hard earned money is my business, she may give advice but she knows her place. Same if we get married, if im bringing home the bacon, shes driving a new bimmer, nice house, food, clothes etc etc, when i get a package in the mail for a new exhaust she wont even ask whats in the box. I treat her like gold and she respects me back.

Man I don't know you or anything, so I could be wrong.  But it just sounds like you have no respect for women.  You shouldn't be married.  I can respect the classic roles, love to have a woman who wants to cook and clean, and who will stay home with the kids, but it really sounds like your coming from a place of masaginy.

[Popeye the Sailor]

Now my dumb single guy question:  Why do wives get so weird about spending money?  Most single guys I know both put money away and buy what they want (with in reason).  My married friends either hide the finances if they want to buy stuff, or do with out.

My sweeping generalization is this, at least in my experience.


Men are pretty impulsive and stupid when it comes to wanting things, and having money in their pockets. They'll typically spend said money, on said shiny new object, without a second thought. This is most likely why in the vast majority of hosueholds I've seen, the womenfolk handle the cashflow/budgeting. It keeps the household from actually going under.

It probably gets to be annoying to be the keeper of the pursestrings when every week or two, for as long as one can remember, your idiot husband asks for a *considerable* amount of money to buy something that he really doesn't need. Sure there might be extra money in the coffers but if it's not actually rainy-day fund, she might've been thinking vacation with the husband, possibly something for the house, education for kids-who knows what. To be badgered for coin for silliness like carbon fiber windscreens, and fancy padded seats, and noisy exhausts, on a bike that gets used on weekends 6-8 months a year just probably smacks of irresponsibility.

While we may all have and/or want fancyness for the bikes-if you think what it actually needs, and what you're actually spending money on (which is, essentially decorating your toy), well, I could see getting weird about that too. It shouldn't be a monetary priority. Anyone who acts like it's all that important should probably re-evaluate their priorities.

[SaltLick]

My sweeping generalization is this, at least in my experience.


Men are pretty impulsive and stupid when it comes to wanting things, and having money in their pockets. They'll typically spend said money, on said shiny new object, without a second thought. This is most likely why in the vast majority of hosueholds I've seen, the womenfolk handle the cashflow/budgeting. It keeps the household from actually going under.

It probably gets to be annoying to be the keeper of the pursestrings when every week or two, for as long as one can remember, your idiot husband asks for a *considerable* amount of money to buy something that he really doesn't need. Sure there might be extra money in the coffers but if it's not actually rainy-day fund, she might've been thinking vacation with the husband, possibly something for the house, education for kids-who knows what. To be badgered for coin for silliness like carbon fiber windscreens, and fancy padded seats, and noisy exhausts, on a bike that gets used on weekends 6-8 months a year just probably smacks of irresponsibility.

While we may all have and/or want fancyness for the bikes-if you think what it actually needs, and what you're actually spending money on (which is, essentially decorating your toy), well, I could see getting weird about that too. It shouldn't be a monetary priority. Anyone who acts like it's all that important should probably re-evaluate their priorities.

Thats what i meant to say.....he just said it better.